I’ve been taking the “Nobody’s Perfect” course, through the YMCA and Strong Start. It’s been great to get to discuss parenting issues with other parents, hear their ideas and think about the way I do things. I hope that all the other parents involved would agree, for themselves as well. There was one class, however, that hit the mark particularly well with me: The Experiential Learning Cycle.
Often, when something happens with my kids, I react to what is going on. If it happens again, I look more closely and then if it repeats itself I kind of focus on trying to figure out how to make it go away (especially with bad behaviour) or how to move on from the event. In NP, we were introduced to the Experiential Learning Cycle, which is the process of “noticing: what?”, “relating: so what?” and “applying: now what?” when we are dealing with any experience. It’s something that I kind of do automatically when something happens, but I don’t necessarily look at the experience very deeply. The deep part can sometimes hurt. It can bring up something that you might want to ignore or not acknowledge is affecting your kids. It can be painful. However, the point is that it is important. It is valuable to look more deeply at our kids’ behavours, to really find out “why” they are behaving in such a way and to really examine what the things are that make them them. Sometimes, when I get into the “groove” I forget to examine things as closely.
It’s a good idea to check this out and, when something comes up, to try it out…
It’s a cycle:
2) Noticing: What?
3) Relating: So What?
4) Applying: Now What?
6) Noticing: What?
7) Relating: So What?
8 ) Applying: Now What?
you get the idea…
And, the reminders for today…
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Elizabeth is a Kamloops lifer. Born at RIH, she is happy to be raising her family here. Married with four wonderful children, Elizabeth is also teacher and enjoys working with parents as she learns more about this “Mommy gig”. Elizabeth is passionate about parenting and enjoys networking with other parents.